The other persistent and tenacious person is the mother-in-law of a friend of mine who has gone through a very similar situation. She emailed me and I was caught up in my freak-out. As things started to calm down a bit, I called her and left a message. She called me and left a message. Then this evening she called me again and we talked for about an hour. She shared the details of what she experienced after her surgery - both the horrifying (having a headache for six weeks) and the beautiful and hopeful (the fact that she was alive a coherently talking to me at all) details. She also welcomed me into one of the many exclusive clubs you never ever intend to join, where the motto is "it's better to be seen than viewed".
The other band that is planning a fundraiser here in the town where I live. The band is called Majik and Jai plays in it. I will post more details about that as they become available.
Given that I finally get to see the neurosurgeon tomorrow, looks like this picture I took a while back (before I knew I would really need it) is today's photo du jour. ;)